Sunday, October 02, 2011

Are You Ready?

Many people have been stopping by and calling to check on us. We have appreciated it for the most part. The one constant in each conversation has been, "Are you ready for the funeral?" in some form or another. I don't know how to answer that. Is anyone ever really ready for that? We've also been told that we seem to be acting "normal" as opposed to some other reaction. I don't know how we are supposed to react, we just go about our days as best as we know how.

We've listened to some of conference (when our cable doesn't go out) and Ronny took Joseph to the afternoon session today. Apparently one of the last talks was about how to deal with tragedy. Ronny said he listened knowing that the words should apply to us but also knowing our situation was different. The speaker spoke on seeing the lost potential of a child when their life was cut short from some form of tragedy.

Our response and feelings are this: Aaron's death was not and is not a tragedy. Aaron by all statistical and medical knowledge was never supposed to live and we had 4 1/2 months of great memories with him. Sure, there were some really tough days amongst that time but we would not have traded our time with him for anything. We loved him and will surely miss him, but we know our life here on Earth must continue until the day comes when we can be reunited with him. We have our moments of grief but the joy of knowing our family is eternal is always constant in our minds and hearts. We take comfort in his memories and can feel his presence in our home constantly, Aaron is here where he was always meant to be.

9 comments:

Tim Harper said...

Sweet post, Denise. Nice to hear that you feel little Aaron around. Great to know what we know, right? Aaron sure put in a good fight.

I'll see you guys tomorrow at the services. Peace and blessings.

Cindy Lou said...

I like this post. I understand your feelings. Ever day with Aaron was a blessing. Your family will be in my thoughts tomorrow.

christa said...

beautifully said. i'm glad heather and stacey could be there with our love and support from oregon!

Sant Family said...

I just wanted you guys to know that I am thinking of you today.

Denise said...

Your family is and has been in my thoughts and prayers. I have always been in awe of your little miracle baby. He fought a good fight!! I have been strengthened by watching his fight and your family, as you supported him. May your days be filled with peace.

Peggy Glasmann said...

Denise, you and your family have always had an amazing attitude. Others don't often understand and it was to them that the message was given. Aaron IS a part of your family. Some days will be hard, but having the perspective of really knowing and believing in the atonement and the plan of salvation is everything. I liked what Russell M. Nelson said: Celestial marriage is the covenant of exaltation. That is what you KNOW!! We love you and are glad Stacy and Heather are there. They bring love from ALL of us!!

Lorri said...
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Lorri said...

Denise,
I just learned of little Aaron's passing today. If I had known I would have come to the funeral. I wish I knew what to say, but I don't. I mean, I can't know what you are going through. I can't even imagine. You have shown me a strength I only wish I had. I have thought of you and Aaron daily since we first met. My thoughts will remain with you forever. I appreciate all the support you have given me and I hope I was able to help you too.
Lorri Richardson & Family
(Dan, Gennessee, Jovi & Azlynn)

vocalise said...

Well stated and well understood and well felt. Thank you.